Examples of Trying To Win In Relationships:

· I’m going to prove to you that you’re wrong on this one.

· I’m going to prove to you that I do more housework around here.

 Explanation: Why Trying To Win Is Such A Relationship Killer

This phrase could be fine to use if the conversation is about a fairly unemotional topic, and you aren’t trying to play the one up—one down game. Relationships don’t work well, when one person is trying to win all the time, so you have to look to your own motivation here.

Consider also that what constitutes “proof” is much more subjective than you’d think, so promising to prove something isn’t necessarily going to work. What constitutes “proof” to you may not be to the other person.

Relationships are about working together, and not about winning points or arguments.

 Make It Better:

You can say similar things but remove the sense that you are trying to prove you are smarter, better, and more informed. Change the structure of the phrase.

· Let’s see if that’s actually true. Maybe we can find out on the Internet.

· Can we take a minute to verify that what you are saying applies here?

· It doesn’t really matter who’s right, so let’s see how we can make sure the house gets cleaned regularly.