Imperfect Phrases For Relationships

 Examples:

· Most people do it this way.

· Everyone’s doing it so…

· All my friends do it.

 Explanation - Pressuring:

This kind of phrase is often used by younger people (children and teenagers) when trying to argue with or get permission from a parent. That should tell you that it’s a fairly weak form of argument.

The intent is clear. The person using it believes that if he or she suggests that “it” is normal; that is, everybody does it, it will somehow sway the other person.

It’s a primitive kind of argument. Do you really want to use a phrase that’s identified with children as young as six or seven years old? No.

If you do use it, what’s the usual outcome? Since you probably have no actual evidence about what “most people do”, or whether what others do is even relevant to your situation, you are likely to argue about THOSE points, and not about the actual issue.

 Make It Better:

If you try to convince someone, based on what “most people” do, it’s probably best to bolster your argument with some proof. However, re-evaluate whether you are trying to win an argument, and get your way, or you are interested in finding a solution to an issue that both of you can live with. This phrase, in any form, needs to be deep-sixed.